Often it happens that a person who is desperately looking for a relationship thinks that finding a partner will solve his/her problems (“If only I had a good relationship like so and so, I’ll be happy.”) In terms of 12 houses, the person is looking at his/her 7th house as the problem area.
Upon closer investigation, however, it comes out that the problem lies elsewhere – maybe she feels stuck in a job that doesn’t utilize her potential, but is afraid to pursue a more challenging career, for fear of failure. That would be a 10th house problem.
Perhaps her fear of failure originates from the pattern of vicious criticism within her early home life – where her parents would tell her that she was stupid or not good enough. That would be a 4th house problem.
In some cases, such life of frustration could result in a pattern of overeating and being severely overweight, so that her body and self-image suffers. In other cases, a person’s body looks fine, but she may suffer from internal self-rejection, or even self-hatred. That would be a 1st house problem.
So when this person says “When will I meet someone?” She’s looking for someone that could rescue her from the pain of unrealized potential (10th house), developmental emotional wounds (4th house), and her negative self-image (1st house.) That’s a lot of pressure to put on someone!
Instead of expecting 1 life area (the 7th house) to resolve the issues of 3 other areas, it would be better to work on solving one problem at a time. The houses forming a grand cross (1st, 4th, 7th, 10th) build upon each other’s problems or successes, so resolving issues in other life areas could actually improve your chances of attracting the right partner.
“First Things First”
Is what I usually tell my clients when they ask me the “When will I meet someone?” question. Astrology can show a favorable period for romance for sure, but the client’s reality has to be conducive to a relationship: If you’re happy with yourself and your work, you’ll have that much more positive energy to give to your partner. Otherwise, there is work to be done first.
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