Saturn Venus Conjunction Square Opposition: Tightness in Emotional Matters

When Saturn conjuncts, squares or opposes Venus, the classic thought was that relationships will be somehow frustrating.  The question to ask is, why is this so?  And how can we work through this pattern and improve the quality of our relationships?

Noel Tyl said Saturn-Venus tension (‘suppression of love feelings’) suggests a “tightness” in handling emotional matters. If you have this aspect in your natal chart, you may find it challenging to share your emotions and affection with others.  What causes this pattern?

Saturn conjunct, square or opposition Venus suggests a delay or an interruption of emotional maturation process.  Perhaps your parents’ relationship was extremely strained, leaving no room for you (the child), or too much responsibility was thrust upon you while you were still young, and you didn’t have enough experience of having your emotional needs met by someone.

Saturn Venus Conjunction, Square, Opposition – Examples

Here are some examples of Saturn-Venus hard aspect:

• Julie Andrews (Natal Chart) has Saturn Rx (retrograde) opposition Venus in 12th – Saturn Rx often suggests that the father was out of the picture: Her parents divorced when she was four, and she remained with her mother. She started working professionally as a singer/actress when she was 12, and by 13 she was the main breadwinner of the family. We could see the extreme manifestation of Work responsibility (Saturn) imposed on the artistic talent (Venus). She couldn’t have regular teenage years, and had to mature way too early. Would that somehow skew the emotional development toward being more mature and serious?  When you become an “adult” so quickly to develop professional responsibility, you inevitably leave some (less responsible) parts of you less developed.
• I’ve had clients with similar experience – one man with Saturn conjunct Venus lost his father while still young, and had to become a surrogate father for the family, in order to take care of his numerous younger siblings. Who met his emotional needs? No one – and he learned to suppress his emotions as a coping mechanism. This obviously created some difficulty in relationships where he appeared cold or uncaring, and he had to work hard to pay attention to his feelings to improve the situation.

These are inevitable circumstances of the real world (Saturn) intruding and imposing upon the personal development, forcing maturity and responsibility (Saturn) upon the emotional structure (Venus). Saturn-Venus aspect does not imply that a person is cold or uncaring; such behavior may just be a protective mechanism developed early, out of practical necessity.

If you’re able to release the defensive patterns that make you feel less, then you will find that you can be mature and be fully in touch with your emotions.

Saturn-Venus Conjunction Square Opposition: Ways to Release Emotional Suppression

You can’t give to others what you don’t have – or in this case, what you didn’t receive.  If your circumstance didn’t give you the chance to receive emotional nurturing as a child, you may still be living the life of emotional self-denial, unconsciously believing this is what you deserve.

If this is the case, then the first remedy toward resolution might be to learn to meet your own emotional needs – to pay attention to it, try to nurture it by understanding it; and then try to do the same with others’ emotions.

A second remedy is to study how your mind works to suppress emotions.  A good indicator is some sort of judgment toward others’ emotions – if you feel someone is being childish, immature or unproductive by being emotional, check to see if these aren’t the very same emotions you criticize within yourself.

In your family, childlike emotions might have been deemed inconvenient rather than something important to pay attention to.  The problem is, those childlike emotions are also the source of your joy.  Learning to accept all emotions within yourself can help you loosen the tight hold you have over your emotions.

Do you have a hard Saturn-Venus aspect in your natal chart?  How do you experience it, and how have you learned to work with it?  Feel free to share in the comments section!