Saturn Synastry in Relationships: Gifts and Challenges

Saturn in Synastry

Saturn in Synastry: Let’s Get Rid of Misconceptions

After hearing so many astrologers talk negatively about Saturn, you may feel discouraged upon seeing Saturn in a synastry contact with your partner.  The fact is you don’t see many long lasting relationships without a significant Saturn contact.

Saturn’s role is to create order and consistency in your life through limitation, and this applies to your relationships as well.  Without Saturn’s involvement, you will most likely switch partners as soon as you encounter even a tiny bit of discomfort.

This article will help you understand your Saturn synastry aspect in a new way.  At the end of the article, I’ve also shared an additional tool you can use to explore this important aspect further.

Bonus Content: Download The Relationship Worksheet to explore your Saturn Synastry aspect with your partner.

 

Saturn Synastry: Understanding Its Challenges and Gifts

Now that you’re becoming aware of Saturn’s importance in creating lasting relationships, let’s talk about the challenges and opportunities it represents in synastry contacts (here we’re mostly concerned with “hard” aspects such as conjunction, square or opposition, but it’s OK to include other aspects as well.)

Saturn Sun Aspect
 Saturn – Sun synastry contact: “An Important Bond”

A synastry contact between Saturn and Sun is a vital contact for both parties.  The Saturn person’s commitment may add a much needed structure and safety to the Sun person’s life, while the Sun person may provide warmth and energy to the Saturn person’s stern exterior.  The danger exists if the Saturn person’s gloom and negativity proves too strong for the Sun person to break through.

 

Saturn Moon aspect
 Saturn – Moon synastry contact: “Weighty Emotions”

In contrast to the previous synastry combination, Moon can be more vulnerable to Saturn’s restrictive pressure – but it greatly depends on the Moon’s sign.  A Capricorn Moon will be able to shrug the pressure off, whereas a Moon in Sagittarius may have more of a difficulty giving up the freedom.  All the same, this combination could be as significant as that of the Saturn-Sun contact, especially if the Saturn person is mature enough to be able to protect the sensitivity of the Moon person.

 

Saturn Mercury Aspect
Saturn – Mercury synastry contact: “Leading to Wisdom”

Synastry between Saturn and Mercury can be excellent for a business or a mentor-student relationship.  Saturn person’s wisdom or maturity can shape the Mercury person’s thought process.  Or the process could reverse itself and the Mercury person’s knowledge could add to the Saturn person’s maturity – a role reversal like that tends to depend on which one is the older of the two.

 

Saturn Venus Aspect
Saturn – Venus synastry contact: “Maturity Adds Grace”

Similar to the Saturn-Moon interaspect, a lot hinges on the Venus’ sign placement.  Venus in an Earth sign deals better with the responsibility and commitment demanded by Saturn.  If both parties are mature enough, the Venus person could add the necessary social grace to the Saturn person’s life.

 

Saturn Mars Aspect
Saturn – Mars synastry contact: “Controlled Energy”

This relationship can breed a lot of resentment if the Mars person isn’t able to tolerate restrictions well.  In a close relationship, it helps if you can work together at doing something productive.  Noel Tyl said the key to handling this aspect is in realizing that energy (Mars) needs control (Saturn) in order to be channeled effectively – this seems to apply just as well in relationships (needless to say, this contact is easier to handle in a business relationship.)

 

Saturn Jupiter Aspect
Saturn – Jupiter synastry contact: “Purpose and Progress”

This can be a highly productive relationship, as Saturn and Jupiter “get” one another and respect each other’s necessary functions (stability and expansion.)  As long as your long term goals are aligned, you will most likely experience great teamwork in the areas affected by this contact.

 

Saturn Saturn Aspect
Saturn – Saturn synastry contact: “Testing Your Own Complex”

You will have this synastry contact if you were born within a few months of each other (or, of course, if your ages are about 7 years apart, 14 years apart, etc.)  The key point is that you will strengthen each other’s natal Saturn complex – perhaps you might even represent the Saturn figure in the other person’s life (father, mentor, boss, etc.)  This then becomes a test or a learning experience to see how well you’re handling the lessons implied in your natal chart.

 

Saturn Uranus Aspect
Saturn – Uranus synastry contact: “Old vs New”

In this relationship the Uranus person might present the Saturn person with a shocking new idea, perhaps due to generation gap.  Such new idea may be hard to accept, or it could be ultimately liberating.  Generalization is difficult, as both planets move slowly enough to become a generational interaspect.

 

Saturn Neptune Aspect
Saturn – Neptune synastry contact: “Special Influence”

Synastry between Neptune and Saturn could represent a spiritual or an aesthetic influence from the Neptune person, as long as the Saturn person is receptive to it.  In an extreme scenario, Neptune may represent something more sinister like deception or influence of alcohol, drugs, etc, but again it’s not possible to generalize these slow moving interaspects.  The Saturn person’s role may be to represent the sober but necessary truth, while the Neptune person’s role may be to open the Saturn person’s eyes to a more joyful world.

 

Saturn Pluto Aspect
Saturn – Pluto synastry contact: “Powerful Duo”

The interaspect between your Saturn and someone’s Pluto (or vice versa) can be heavy and serious, and carries with it an awareness of status or power.  What is the underlying motivation behind this relationship?  Is the overall tone of relationship productive or destructive?  The right combination of people could accomplish so much here.

Famous Example: Apple founders Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak (Jobs’ Saturn square Wozniak’s Pluto).

Saturn Ascendant Aspect
Saturn – Ascendant synastry contact: “The Mentor”

Since Ascendant is a point and not a planet, possibly the Saturn person could wield more influence over the formation of the Ascendant person’s identity.  This may be a classic teacher-student combination.  At the same time, if the age gap is reversed (i.e. Saturn person being younger than the Ascendant person), the Ascendant person’s persona could influence the maturation of the Saturn person.

 

Saturn MC Aspect
Saturn – Midheaven synastry contact: “Career Impact”

This can be a highly influential relationship.  The Saturn person can affect the Midheaven person as an authority figure, and could shape the future professional direction of the MC person.  Here again if the Midheaven person is much older than the Saturn person, the role could be reversed and the MC person’s social status can aid the Saturn person’s professional development.

 

Summary: Saturn Synastry Builds Long Term Relationships

We need the pressure of responsibility Saturn represents to grow and accomplish things, and this includes the pressure of committed relationships (here we include a broad range of important relationships: marriage, teacher-student, even a relationship to a group or a cause. )

The existence of a challenging Saturn interaspect in synastry does not doom your relationship – it simply makes it more real and meaningful, the longer you keep learning from it.

A Free Bonus: Saturn Synastry Relationship Worksheet

Astrology is a good tool for introspection, and Saturn offers a great deal of food for thought.  In case you wanted to consider things in more depth, I prepared a “Saturn Synastry Relationship Worksheet” to help you isolate the Saturn interaspect you have with your partner’s horoscope.

Download the Synastry Worksheet here, and spend a moment considering each Saturn synastry contact in terms of its positive and/or challenging expressions.  Do the same for the synastry contact your Saturn makes with your partner’s horoscope, and see how you may be influencing him/her.

About Hiroki Niizato

Hiroki Niizato is a professional consulting astrologer in Florida, serving clients in US and abroad. He has been practicing astrology professionally since 2001. Hiroki is a highest honor graduate of the demanding Master’s Degree Certification Course in Astrology by Noel Tyl.

You can contact Hiroki via email at: Hiroki@hniizato.com or Phone: 727-470-4056 to ask a question or schedule a consultation.

Comments

  1. That was an interesting article on Saturn synastry. I don’t know if I agree totally. I have observed some experiences regarding my parents. My mother’s Saturn was conjunct my Sun. She repressed me quite a bit, but I presume that I stimulated her negative side. Conversely, my father’s Sun was conjunct my Saturn. I suspect that my birth scared him when he realized what would happen with his responsibilities. I should mention that age was a factor, as my mother was 31 years old that I, and my father was 41. And I was the oldest of 3 children.

    • Hi Don,

      Parent-child relationship adds another layor to the interpretation, for sure! Your father’s Sun conjunct your Saturn suggests that he became a living embodiment of your natal Saturn (for better or worse). That’s a complex picture that doesn’t lend itself well to an one paragraph description. Your mother’s relationship to you is also similarly complex, as you might find in your own natal Moon and Nodal placement.

      Regards,
      Hiroki

  2. Hey Hiroki
    Actually it is very difficult for me to understand these things.But after reading your article i find it somehow very interesting. So,thanks for this and keep it up.

  3. My husband and I have a square between his Saturn and my Sun and Moon in Capricorn. It gives us a very strong commitment to each other and he is very much the leader! As you say the Capricorn Moon is able to shrug off the Saturnian pressure… and yes in our case the Saturn person is mature and protects the sensitivity of the Moon person! I think the key with squares in synastry is for one person, or both, to relinquish the struggle for control. After that things become a lot easier…

  4. Fascinating, as I have come to anticipate from this site! Thanks so much.

    I wonder, how does it work out in Synastry for Saturn and the Nodes? I am asking particularly in respect to Saturn in hard aspect to the North Node…

    The man I have (very suddenly) fallen for recently has my Saturn in Aquarius squaring his North Node in Taurus, with this being our strongest aspect. My reading indicates that this would create a student-teacher relationship (with myself as the ‘teacher’), perhaps lasting only as long as the ‘lesson’. This is hard to envisage, as I am many years his junior, while he is a seasoned professional in his field and far more experienced in the hardships of love and life than I!
    Some warn against marriage or other partnership (i.e. business) with this Synastry, as it will not be a partnership of equals. I have to agree–I care for him and admire some of his talents and characteristics, but I do find him a little hard to predict and trust, at times, and I think that is reciprocated (his Moon conjuncts my Uranus)…

    Moreover, my research suggests that this relationship will be slow to start, suffer poor timing, and is unlikely to succeed (but, if it does, will very quickly become serious and committed, only to fall short once the usefulness of the bond is outgrown). It would imply to me that we need to meet and bring each other’s energies into our life…but is it worth the seemingly inevitable suffering and eventual separation, as well as the ego/identity frustration?

    I have an almost hypnotic, soul-deep attraction to him, and I see my own qualities reflected in his being, perfect and imperfect, but I do not want to enter his life only to limit and inhibit him, bring hardship and depression, or to be his replacement Mom or Dad, as Saturn threatens….I’d work for and with him, maybe even wait a while for him, but I wouldn’t want him to give up or sacrifice anything important for me, and vice versa. As a Cap/Aqua type, I will not be tamed, thwarted, or dictated to, even by someone I could love! :) I also worry about losing my love for humanity, my social ambition, and my healthy scepticism (Aquarius) on account of his stubbornness and need to settle and accept comforts/stasis in life (Taurus Node), or for him losing his natural sensuality and bullheaded drive to fulfil his joys because of my cerebrality…

    Or could this be a real, deep thing, where we grow up/old together? I would love to get your thoughts on this intriguing but troubling Saturn/Node issue.

    • Hello Lightfly,

      What the interaspect between Saturn and Node suggests is a sense of “knowing one another from before.” There is a sense of lessons to be learned from your meeting. This, however, isn’t enough to tell you how your particular relationship will turn out. Please schedule an appointment if you’d like me to take a closer look at the synastry between you.

  5. Thanks for the excellent and very insightful article article, Hiroki.
    One is always happy to hear an astrologer say that Saturn cannot be all bad.

    Recently, I was going through a website that called itself ‘Magi Astrology’. According to their beliefs, a square between Saturn and Chiron in synastry is called the ‘Heartbreak Clash’ and indicates that the relationship will definitely end acrimoniously, causing heartbreak and humiliation for one of the parties involved (especially the Chiron person, i.e. me!). I was a bit depressed to read this interpretation because my significant other and I have this configuration. We also have many helpful configurations, of course.

    Have you, in your studies, found this to be true?

    • Hello MB, Saturn synastry with Chiron could suggest the relationship will force you to look at your existing emotional wounds. Chiron symbolizes wounds and healing, so the other side of the symbolism is that Saturn might allow you to focus on achieving healing through the relationship. Usually words like “always” are suspect when it comes to understanding planetary archetypes.

  6. Kassandra says:

    My dad’s Saturn conjuncts my ASC and my Saturn conjunct his ASC. Weird hum? I’m actually the most mature. At 50 he’s still a big child, but he’s a lot of fun also.

    • Hello Kassandra,

      Thank you for sharing your example with the Saturn interaspect with your father. This kind of repeated contacts between two people’s charts suggest a major theme for the relationship. In your case it’s appropriately around fathering and maturing.

  7. Hi Hiroki,

    His Saturn opposes my Moon and my Saturn trines his moon. we are dating for three years now or rather we are in a situation for three years now and it is the most difficult thing ever. I have read everywhere that Saturn square or opposite moon relationships never consummate and it appears that it is so with us. Is there no way that can help this relationship? I must mention, he is the most emotionally immature person that ever existed and he is controlling the relationship by deliberately keeping a distance between us. we see each other 4 times a year despite living 7 minutes away from each other.

    our whole synastry is heavy laden with Saturn and it is really a sticky glue. I want to walk away but I guess the sun conjunct venus double whammy in our synastry plus all other many Saturn contacts somehow makes us believe we love each other.

    I feel stuck.

    • Hi Sylvia, it sounds like you’re wanting something that the other person is not capable of giving. Sometimes the wisest and healthiest thing to do is to do what you know to be the right thing deep inside, even when your emotions do not agree (what a Saturnian thought.) If you’re truly confused about what that right thing to do is, please consider scheduling a private consultation to discuss it in more depth.

  8. Great article! I agree that Saturn isn’t ask bad and constantly blocking energy, I think it can be very dependable and helpful in the longevity of relationships. Any thoughts on Saturn conjunct Juno in a synastry chart, where each Saturn is conjunct the partner’s Juno? Thanks!

  9. Great article! My caregiver’s bossy Saturn/moon 9th house Sagittarius is square my autonomous 7th house Pluto/uranus Virgo. She cannot hear any trite request of mine without automatically countering with anything better. Scrambled eggs? Why not over easy? It was frustrating, then comical, & finally unacceptable. I ‘need’ a good carer. Her venus cancer sextiles my bizarre uranus virgo & trines my 1st house jupiter chiron in pisces. My pluto is absolutely not having this! It’s already lost so much choice & control with neptune conjuct moon & venus in 8th house scorpio. I can only guess that my soul came here to rely on self supernaturally…

  10. Neptune-Rising says:

    Hi Hiroki, Very interesting article about Saturn. I would like your opinion about something please. If a couple has OK Saturn aspects in synastry with sextiles and one minor semi-square for example, but the composite chart is heavily squared to Saturn; can this prevent a relationship from even forming? There is a tight stellium conjunction of Sun, Venus, Neptune and Mercury, all trining Pluto but squaring Mars and Saturn. He has many Capricorn planets and I have Saturn in the 7th. Thanks much.

    • Hi there, I don’t use composite charts to analyze relationships (I’ve tried it for a long time, but it made much more sense to honor individual charts), so cannot answer your question. I consider individual horoscopes and their interaction through synastry (and of course, real-life circumstance must always be considered.)

  11. Hi dear

    I have some 10-12 Saturn aspects with my love I actually donno what it means can you please help out .

  12. Hi hiroki
    I have a sun, moon, SaturnMars square Saturn to the love of my life but then their are also aspects like Juno conjunct Saturn sun trine sun ,moon..ascendant conjuncts north node sometimes it’s too irritating and I think am the Saturn here..

  13. Hello, just learning about this aspect in astrology and its absolutely amazing and bit sicking at the same time.

    I’ve been seeing a guy that there is constant problems with and I’ve pretty much just told him I’ve had enough.

    Now I’ve read this and I’m feeling like I need to forgive and let go so we don’t keep going through this in future lives.

    Do you have any tips or advice?

    Me
    Saturn: Libra
    Moon: Capricorn

    Him
    Saturn: Capricorn
    Moon: Libra

    Thank you :)

    • Hi Alesha, if your Saturn and Moon are in aspect with his Saturn and Moon, it increases the significance of the Saturn Moon synastry, since it’s happening twice for emphasis. There is a sense of learning something about yourself, in ways that help you mature emotionally.

  14. Hi there!
    Great article!
    My partner’s Saturn squares my Mars, my Jupiter and my Ascendant but in 8 and 9 degrees.. Are these aspects important??
    We are in a relationship for 3 years .
    My Saturn also conjunct his Moon in 5 degrees and my Uranus conjunct his Moon in 10 degrees.
    Thank you in advance!

    • Hello Yianna, aspects 8-9 degrees apart would be a bit too wide to consider, so I wouldn’t prioritize those. The only important contact from what you mentioned would be your Saturn conjunct his Moon.

      • Thank you for your answer !
        This is a little bit confusing for me since i have a friend who has his Saturn in difficult aspect with my Moon in 8-9 degrees and this is the only aspect in our synastry with Saturn and I can feel it very strongly in our friendship since I often feel a pressure and stability by his side..
        With my partner I can feel sometimes a controlling and possessive behavior by his side ..
        That’s why I’m wondering if those aspects in our synastry might be playing a role..

        Thank you once again and best wishes!

  15. i met a guy where i work. He took me out today. Based on comparison of our charts with acurate birth times we have alot of aspects that would indicate a relationship. His saturn is exactly conjunct my descendant and south node in virgo. My south node is also conjunct his descendant in Virgo. His moon in cancer is opposite my sun in capricorn . his mars in libra is trine my venus in aquarius. His venus is a conjunct my ic. I had a good time with him today. But, I dont feel physically attracted to him at all. like , i dont feel any sparks. is that possible given all of these strong aspects. He is nothing like the type of men that I am attracted to – dont know if it helps you to know that my mars is in scorp.

  16. Thanks Hiroki. I meant to say his ascendant is in Virgo which is conjunct my south node

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